Boring boyfriends are everywhere and they are in relationships with lively girlfriends who may be growing weary of them. If you think that because a guy is nice looking, sounds nice, and dresses well is most likely not a dull person, think again! When you know that you have an outgoing lifestyle, lively attitude, and enjoy talking to people, be sure to pay attention to signs that a potential partner might not be right for you long term.
So how do you know that your boring boyfriend just might not be right for you?
One. He takes no interest in what you do.
When you mention a variety of things to do, which isn't always female related, and he still turns you down and prefers to watch TV or surf the Internet most of the time, you have a boring boyfriend.
Two. When he tells you things like, "All I do...I mainly do...I often do...." and then fills in the blank with something that sounds boring, most likely he is boring.
Some men just don't get it, there is more to life then working, eating and watching/playing electronic devices. So when he is primarily using his free time to do the same ole things and rarely wants to do anything different, then face it, he is a bore.
Three. Other people tell you, "He's boring."
Relatives and friends try to make conversation with your partner and all he ever says is the same statements over and over again, "Yeah...Wow..hmm." Maybe he is nervous around them, but maybe he just lacks good conversation. Whatever his reason, he is coming off as boring. Now if he seems to be conversing with others he feels more comfortable with, like you, boredom isn't the issue, he just doesn't like your folks very much or they make him nervous.
Four. Conversation is uninteresting.
No matter what you say, your dull boyfriend manages to bore you by being unresponsive or he talks much about nothing. Whatever he says, you just don't feel enlightened and worse you feel like he is useless to talk to so you find someone else. Not your issue that he lacks conversation skills, do what you have to do, talk to other people, before this guy drains all the life out of you!
Five. Love-making is boring.
He does it the same way all the time. No spice, no excitement, no anything. Then when it is over, no cuddling or talking intimately to you. He is ready to do what he likes to do re-enter his boring life of: eating, sleeping, working or watching or playing with his electronic device. No one will blame you if you ditch him and go out with someone else who sparks your interest especially if you have communicated your thoughts to him and he ignores your requests.
There are many other signs that you might include, but these are most popular when it comes to boring boyfriends. Keep in mind if these issues are most important to you and you can't see yourself spending the rest of your life with your mate, don't try to talk yourself into being more like him. You will eventually start resenting him. Meanwhile, he won't realize why you resent him so much until a major argument brings everything to light one day. "I tried to get you to come out of your shell! I wanted us to do other things! I would have liked to have a real conversation with you sometime, but you are boring! I don't know what I ever saw in you!" This could be you, the active, outgoing, creative type, screaming one day. Don't let it happen. Cut your losses early if you know that the relationship is headed nowhere.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love Myself
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Are You a Boring Partner or Boring Friend? 6 Signs That You Might Be
"He wasn't always like this when we first met so boring, or was he?" Looking back on my long list of dates, I would have to say about a handful were absolutely boring. They might have been a little bit interesting when we first started dating, but then soon after I was wondering what did I see in them in the first place. Then there were my boring friends--ouch! Yeah, I said a few of my friends were a bit of a bore. They didn't know how to do nothing more than say, "Huh...uh.." on the phone.
Boring men or women as lovers or friends just don't have the spark, x factor or just something special about them and don't think you can change them either! You probably know from personal experience a few. A boring person is created just like a social butterfly is molded and shaped. You can make yourself be deemed, "Boring!" by others in a number of ways. Here are a few.
1. You don't engage anyone to want to converse with you. Do you ask questions when a person tells you a story? Do you exchange information? Do you act the least bit interested in what other's have to say?
2. You are ridiculously private! Some people are so private that they won't tell you if they left the house today or if they did, what store did they visit. It seems to ask these questions of them are considered offensive. So if you can't even share a little detail like where you shopped, you seriously have issues and boring is only a small part of them.
3. You don't articulate most of your words, you just make sounds. There is more to a conversation then "huh, hmm, uh..." You might be doing this because you don't trust people--fearful someone might go back and tell another person what you said. If this is the case, you might need a friend adjustment; rather than a change in personality. Yet, some people are good friends, but you can't tell, because you nor they know what to say outside of your job.
4. You don't leave home. It seems you are house bound because of a number of issues. So people assume you don't want to be bothered, you have nothing going on, and therefore you are bored or boring. Maybe they have wrongly reached that conclusion. So why not invite people to go out with you and/or visit your home?
5. Clueless as to what to do with people. Seriously folks, there are people who just don't know how to deal with people outside of a workplace. If they aren't joining a group, leading a group, directing a group, they really don't know what to do. So people who know them will say, "Wow, she isn't what I thought she was outside of the workplace--she's boring!"
6. Always by the book, don't deviate from routines. You don't like to change your order of doing things; yet those around you would like to see some things done differently maybe even see a different you. But it just feels safe cooking the same things, driving the same ways, dressing the same way, and so on. No wonder a partner might call his or her mate, "Boring!"
Notice all issues mentioned in this article prove that it is the boring person who is responsible for the label "boring" and he/she has no one to blame for their boredom.
Nicholl McGuire
Boring men or women as lovers or friends just don't have the spark, x factor or just something special about them and don't think you can change them either! You probably know from personal experience a few. A boring person is created just like a social butterfly is molded and shaped. You can make yourself be deemed, "Boring!" by others in a number of ways. Here are a few.
1. You don't engage anyone to want to converse with you. Do you ask questions when a person tells you a story? Do you exchange information? Do you act the least bit interested in what other's have to say?
2. You are ridiculously private! Some people are so private that they won't tell you if they left the house today or if they did, what store did they visit. It seems to ask these questions of them are considered offensive. So if you can't even share a little detail like where you shopped, you seriously have issues and boring is only a small part of them.
3. You don't articulate most of your words, you just make sounds. There is more to a conversation then "huh, hmm, uh..." You might be doing this because you don't trust people--fearful someone might go back and tell another person what you said. If this is the case, you might need a friend adjustment; rather than a change in personality. Yet, some people are good friends, but you can't tell, because you nor they know what to say outside of your job.
4. You don't leave home. It seems you are house bound because of a number of issues. So people assume you don't want to be bothered, you have nothing going on, and therefore you are bored or boring. Maybe they have wrongly reached that conclusion. So why not invite people to go out with you and/or visit your home?
5. Clueless as to what to do with people. Seriously folks, there are people who just don't know how to deal with people outside of a workplace. If they aren't joining a group, leading a group, directing a group, they really don't know what to do. So people who know them will say, "Wow, she isn't what I thought she was outside of the workplace--she's boring!"
6. Always by the book, don't deviate from routines. You don't like to change your order of doing things; yet those around you would like to see some things done differently maybe even see a different you. But it just feels safe cooking the same things, driving the same ways, dressing the same way, and so on. No wonder a partner might call his or her mate, "Boring!"
Notice all issues mentioned in this article prove that it is the boring person who is responsible for the label "boring" and he/she has no one to blame for their boredom.
Nicholl McGuire
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