Boredom Can Be a Distraction in a Relationship/Friendship

We have all been in situations where we felt bored, out of place, and other disturbing emotions simply because we missed the excitement that we once experienced being in a certain environment.  However, some of the most challenging emotions are those that we experience when partnered with someone who we refuse to admit is no longer good for our well-being.  They seem to be a source of our boredom, discomfort, and drain us of spiritual energy. 

Maybe there was a time when a partner, relative or friend was the best person for you, but not anymore--what happened?  What is making this person so dull?  Something about him or her is spiritually, physically, and/or emotionally dead.  When you have someone like this around, but you aren't quite ready to cut him or her off, this is what you do: 

1.  Bring your feelings out into the open with the person who is boring you until you feel like you have been heard.

2.  Address each issue in a way that is polite, caring and sincere.

3.  Take some time for yourself, because you know he or she is not going to like you very much for bringing up subject matter that makes him or her uncomfortable.

4.  Watch for changes.  A person who really wants to be in your life will try to make a difference.  Give this person some time to process all you have told him or her.

5.  Check yourself to be sure you are not acting in ways that make those around you feel like you are useless/boring/unloving, etc. too.  Share some love, excitement, etc.

Here's hoping for a positive start in the right direction whether the troubled individual in your camp sticks around or not.

Check out topics related to emotional and physical abuse at Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate, see here.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love Myself and Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.

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