Boredom Can Be a Distraction in a Relationship/Friendship

We have all been in situations where we felt bored, out of place, and other disturbing emotions simply because we missed the excitement that we once experienced being in a certain environment.  However, some of the most challenging emotions are those that we experience when partnered with someone who we refuse to admit is no longer good for our well-being.  They seem to be a source of our boredom, discomfort, and drain us of spiritual energy. 

Maybe there was a time when a partner, relative or friend was the best person for you, but not anymore--what happened?  What is making this person so dull?  Something about him or her is spiritually, physically, and/or emotionally dead.  When you have someone like this around, but you aren't quite ready to cut him or her off, this is what you do: 

1.  Bring your feelings out into the open with the person who is boring you until you feel like you have been heard.

2.  Address each issue in a way that is polite, caring and sincere.

3.  Take some time for yourself, because you know he or she is not going to like you very much for bringing up subject matter that makes him or her uncomfortable.

4.  Watch for changes.  A person who really wants to be in your life will try to make a difference.  Give this person some time to process all you have told him or her.

5.  Check yourself to be sure you are not acting in ways that make those around you feel like you are useless/boring/unloving, etc. too.  Share some love, excitement, etc.

Here's hoping for a positive start in the right direction whether the troubled individual in your camp sticks around or not.

Check out topics related to emotional and physical abuse at Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate, see here.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love Myself and Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.

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Boring People Don't Know They are Boring Until...

Boring people don't know they are boring until someone tells them whether nicely or rudely.  They are ususally in the group with the others agreeing that someone else is "a bore, annoying, has no life..."  Meanwhile, what they don't realize is they are describing themselves.

Once someone told me (note: I am changing a few details for privacy reasons), "I no longer wanted to date her, because she was boring.  I had to end it with her."  I thought to myself, "Could it be that she reacted in the way that she did toward you, because she felt that you were a bore!"  I mean let's be honest with ourselves, we are not always interesting, great or fun to be around.  But seriously, when you start seeing a pattern in your life that is telling those around you, "Loser!"  You have to do some things differently.  Why wait for someone to argue, threaten or take something away from you because you refuse to change!

You may have heard someone say, "Get a life!"  What exactly does that mean?  It means enjoy living.  Avoid the temptation to make the job your all.  Have something else going on outside of your routines.  For some people, they may not be employed, so you have more freedom than most to do some interesting things.  Consider doing the following to add a little interest to your dull life (that is if I am describing you...lol):

One.  Check your local newspaper or a website that tailors to tourists in your area.  You will find some upcoming events.  See if any appeal to you or those you know and then invite them or go yourself.

Two.  Find out what classes are available to help you better your skills in something.

Three.  Start collecting useful things like family history for starters or researching about topics you know little about. (This will definitely help your conversational skills.)

Four.  Read books that will teach you more about your job or interest.

Five.  Connect with family and friends online or offline that you haven't spoken to in awhile.

Six.  Plan a family get-together or a reunion with old friends.

Seven.  Attend a place of worship. (Trust me, spirituality will definitely make you interesting to be around especially if you have some spiritual gifts!  But you might lose a few in your circle too--so what, they were boring anyway--lol).

Seriously, do something interesting with your life while you can still breathe and walk on your own, because one day you won't be able to do much but hope for death.  Make the most of your life--do what's right and best for you and those you love!

Nicholl McGuire

Bored? Think about Your Part in Society and Why You Aren't Getting Ahead

When You're Bored, You are Most Likely to Get in Trouble

When some typical busybodies get bored, they usually get into trouble, because they have been somewhere or did something they had no business doing.  But what was the motivation for them to get into trouble in the first place?  Boredom.  They grew weary of routines, people, places, and things.  "I am open to trying something new..." the bored guy tells his friends.  Before long, he is doing and saying some things he would have never done before.

Now trying new things isn't always wrong.  If you are attempting to better yourself, help others, and overall just be a blessing and not a curse to humanity, then so be it.  But some people allow a wayward, bored mind to get the best of them to the point of causing much discord for self and others.  These individuals will take a chance, put their lives at risk, because they are simply bored!  "I called her name, picked on her...I was bored.  I cheated on them, well because I was bored with the relationships.  I quit my job, yeah I know that was stupid, but I was bored!"

When you don't have a plan, some sort of focus as to why you are doing what you are doing, that's when trouble finds you!  Objectives must be updated for the bored mind, before he or she self-destructs!

You've heard people say, "I was minding my own business when...I was just wandering around when...I didn't go over there, she came to me..."  Doesn't matter!  A bored, tired mind (especially with no motivation for living) will end up at the wrong place at the wrong time more often than he or she cares to admit.  Trouble doesn't come around as often (notice I didn't say it never comes) to one who planned his or her day better, paid close attention to his or her instincts, and took necessary precautions.

Trouble will find you at some point and test your faith, money, health, family and more, but it doesn't have to claim one's life sooner, if one watches for signs and uses wise teachings to fight back.
 
Listens to those messengers along your life's journey that say, "Don't go there tonight...that's not a good idea...why don't you stay home...what about doing something else rather than..." 

Nicholl McGuire shares videos at YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.  See here.