Boring People Don't Know They are Boring Until...

Boring people don't know they are boring until someone tells them whether nicely or rudely.  They are ususally in the group with the others agreeing that someone else is "a bore, annoying, has no life..."  Meanwhile, what they don't realize is they are describing themselves.

Once someone told me (note: I am changing a few details for privacy reasons), "I no longer wanted to date her, because she was boring.  I had to end it with her."  I thought to myself, "Could it be that she reacted in the way that she did toward you, because she felt that you were a bore!"  I mean let's be honest with ourselves, we are not always interesting, great or fun to be around.  But seriously, when you start seeing a pattern in your life that is telling those around you, "Loser!"  You have to do some things differently.  Why wait for someone to argue, threaten or take something away from you because you refuse to change!

You may have heard someone say, "Get a life!"  What exactly does that mean?  It means enjoy living.  Avoid the temptation to make the job your all.  Have something else going on outside of your routines.  For some people, they may not be employed, so you have more freedom than most to do some interesting things.  Consider doing the following to add a little interest to your dull life (that is if I am describing you...lol):

One.  Check your local newspaper or a website that tailors to tourists in your area.  You will find some upcoming events.  See if any appeal to you or those you know and then invite them or go yourself.

Two.  Find out what classes are available to help you better your skills in something.

Three.  Start collecting useful things like family history for starters or researching about topics you know little about. (This will definitely help your conversational skills.)

Four.  Read books that will teach you more about your job or interest.

Five.  Connect with family and friends online or offline that you haven't spoken to in awhile.

Six.  Plan a family get-together or a reunion with old friends.

Seven.  Attend a place of worship. (Trust me, spirituality will definitely make you interesting to be around especially if you have some spiritual gifts!  But you might lose a few in your circle too--so what, they were boring anyway--lol).

Seriously, do something interesting with your life while you can still breathe and walk on your own, because one day you won't be able to do much but hope for death.  Make the most of your life--do what's right and best for you and those you love!

Nicholl McGuire

Bored? Think about Your Part in Society and Why You Aren't Getting Ahead

When You're Bored, You are Most Likely to Get in Trouble

When some typical busybodies get bored, they usually get into trouble, because they have been somewhere or did something they had no business doing.  But what was the motivation for them to get into trouble in the first place?  Boredom.  They grew weary of routines, people, places, and things.  "I am open to trying something new..." the bored guy tells his friends.  Before long, he is doing and saying some things he would have never done before.

Now trying new things isn't always wrong.  If you are attempting to better yourself, help others, and overall just be a blessing and not a curse to humanity, then so be it.  But some people allow a wayward, bored mind to get the best of them to the point of causing much discord for self and others.  These individuals will take a chance, put their lives at risk, because they are simply bored!  "I called her name, picked on her...I was bored.  I cheated on them, well because I was bored with the relationships.  I quit my job, yeah I know that was stupid, but I was bored!"

When you don't have a plan, some sort of focus as to why you are doing what you are doing, that's when trouble finds you!  Objectives must be updated for the bored mind, before he or she self-destructs!

You've heard people say, "I was minding my own business when...I was just wandering around when...I didn't go over there, she came to me..."  Doesn't matter!  A bored, tired mind (especially with no motivation for living) will end up at the wrong place at the wrong time more often than he or she cares to admit.  Trouble doesn't come around as often (notice I didn't say it never comes) to one who planned his or her day better, paid close attention to his or her instincts, and took necessary precautions.

Trouble will find you at some point and test your faith, money, health, family and more, but it doesn't have to claim one's life sooner, if one watches for signs and uses wise teachings to fight back.
 
Listens to those messengers along your life's journey that say, "Don't go there tonight...that's not a good idea...why don't you stay home...what about doing something else rather than..." 

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The Problem with Boring Conversations

You have been there, seated or standing at a store, in a checkout line, or a parking lot and you overhear two people trying to pass the time away.  Neither person is interesting--their conversation, boring!  You actually hope they don't bring their boring thoughts, laughter, or anything else to you!  Boring conversations can be like a catchy cold, you don't want it!

Riding in a car with someone, walking or doing something else doesn't have to be a bore if you know how to communicate in an interesting way that causes both of you to experience a myriad of emotions.  Why not make a chance meeting or a random moment one that is memorable?  Have something to say worthwhile. 

Most people expect the typical boring conversation  with others about the usual:  weather, their present predicament, or what they are having or just had to eat (sigh).  You can bring life to a dull atmosphere by saying something funny, shocking, or even wise. 

Use the weather to direct a conversation in your favor if you are a believer in a Creator.  Find out someone's current dilemma if you are a salesperson.  Comment on an individual's clothing or accessories if your looking for a friend--yes this works!  Before long, you are sharing spiritual insight, your personal business, and talking about visiting a store together one day.

Life is simply too short to be spending 10 minutes or a few hours talking about meaningless stuff that don't make a lasting impression.  Whether you anger someone or uplift them, they will remember you, not so much by what you said, but how you made them feel. 

You need not exaggerate or lie about your life, but what you can do is talk out loud about it and hear, really listen to what you are saying about yourself--do you believe in you?  Could you use a little make-over in your personality?  Are you short-changing yourself and missing out on real life opprotunities or is electronics taking up most of your time?  What about the person listening to you, could this person benefit from your life experience? 

Exchange thoughts and sincerely enjoy those five minute friendships with strangers--listen and talk, listen and talk.  Some people can be a bore because they talk too much or too little especially know-it-all young and old people.  Ask questions that move a person to want to answer in detail.  State things that make others ponder their encounter with you. 

Who knows, you might be someone's angel in disguise?

Nicholl McGuire

Keep Some Paints on Standby for those I'm Bored Days