Are You a Boring Partner or Boring Friend? 6 Signs That You Might Be

"He wasn't always like this when we first met so boring, or was he?" Looking back on my long list of dates, I would have to say about a handful were absolutely boring. They might have been a little bit interesting when we first started dating, but then soon after I was wondering what did I see in them in the first place. Then there were my boring friends--ouch! Yeah, I said a few of my friends were a bit of a bore. They didn't know how to do nothing more than say, "Huh...uh.." on the phone.

Boring men or women as lovers or friends just don't have the spark, x factor or just something special about them and don't think you can change them either! You probably know from personal experience a few. A boring person is created just like a social butterfly is molded and shaped. You can make yourself be deemed, "Boring!" by others in a number of ways. Here are a few.

1. You don't engage anyone to want to converse with you. Do you ask questions when a person tells you a story? Do you exchange information? Do you act the least bit interested in what other's have to say?

2. You are ridiculously private! Some people are so private that they won't tell you if they left the house today or if they did, what store did they visit. It seems to ask these questions of them are considered offensive. So if you can't even share a little detail like where you shopped, you seriously have issues and boring is only a small part of them.

3. You don't articulate most of your words, you just make sounds. There is more to a conversation then "huh, hmm, uh..." You might be doing this because you don't trust people--fearful someone might go back and tell another person what you said. If this is the case, you might need a friend adjustment; rather than a change in personality. Yet, some people are good friends, but you can't tell, because you nor they know what to say outside of your job.

4. You don't leave home. It seems you are house bound because of a number of issues. So people assume you don't want to be bothered, you have nothing going on, and therefore you are bored or boring. Maybe they have wrongly reached that conclusion. So why not invite people to go out with you and/or visit your home?

5. Clueless as to what to do with people. Seriously folks, there are people who just don't know how to deal with people outside of a workplace. If they aren't joining a group, leading a group, directing a group, they really don't know what to do. So people who know them will say, "Wow, she isn't what I thought she was outside of the workplace--she's boring!"

6. Always by the book, don't deviate from routines. You don't like to change your order of doing things; yet those around you would like to see some things done differently maybe even see a different you. But it just feels safe cooking the same things, driving the same ways, dressing the same way, and so on. No wonder a partner might call his or her mate, "Boring!"

Notice all issues mentioned in this article prove that it is the boring person who is responsible for the label "boring" and he/she has no one to blame for their boredom.

Nicholl McGuire

Social Media Can Be Boring Sometimes...

Is it just me! But interacting with people via the net can be downright boring sometimes! I mean how many times will you go to someone's personal page to see some goofy update about what people are cooking, where they are going, how great their children did in school or something else!

Sometimes you look for trouble just to get a charge! Why so many boring people? I'll tell you, because people are beginning to act like one another. It starts like this, you see what I do, so you copy my online actions (no matter how boring) because you think it will work for you and so on. Before long, everyone is looking and sounding the same! They are either reporting on their online or offline findings/activities, venting about something, or saying something so off the wall that everyone in their network actually ponders on whether they want to receive their news feeds anymore let alone be a friend. Those who love shocking people in their network are actually bored quite possibly with those in their inner circle offline, so going online is where they get their charge.

Between being bored offline and online, you are going to do one of two things: say something offensive and/or connect with some groups or participate in activities you wouldn't normally do. Once you stop being bored, you will look back on your actions and most likely say, "I didn't mean to do that..."

Nicholl

Ready for those Boring Holiday Events?

From holiday office parties to an all day affair with the in-laws, you know you will be bored at some of these so-called fun events. So what do you do?

1. Bring your own beverages.

If you are going to be somewhere that isn't going to serve your favorite drink, bring your own.

2. Pack an overnight bag and stay at a nearby hotel.

You might find that your spouse and children will want to spend more time at a relative's house than expected. Why try to make the long drive back home, when you can make plans to stay at a nearby hotel with your honey? Just be sure, that your partner informs his or her relatives in advance so that you won't feel obligated to stay with them when they say, "Don't pay for a hotel, stay with us!"

3. Take separate cars.

Maybe you still want to make that drive back home with or without your family. Why not arrive in separate cars so that you don't have to take the family back home with you before they are ready to leave. Besides, you can have the peace and quiet you want anyway.

4. Help the host.

When you are busy doing things during a holiday event, it makes the time go faster. So offer to help serve meals, clean dishes, take the trash out, decorate or whatever else needs to be done. This is also a great way to keep from conversing with those folks you simply don't like!

5. Join the children.

The people who usually have the most fun at family events are the children. So join in on the fun when they are playing gaming systems and board games. Who says you have to sit at the table and listen to the grumblings of the old folks?

As you think of incorporating these ideas and others to keep from becoming bored out of your mind at the next holiday event, just remember you are responsible for your own fun, so if the partner doesn't agree or doesn't want to meet you halfway, you can always stay home.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate, Laboring to Love Myself and When Mothers Cry.

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Workplace Boredom

Boredom at the workplace can be quite destructive to the worker and there are ways of averting this problem.
The boredom might result in catastrophic consequences especially to a person who loves work, but to an idler it is never an issue. So it can result in low productivity, dwindling job satisfaction, and energy. That is why it is wise to deal with it squarely in the following ways.
For a start, you could use this extra time in between tasks to find out more about your organization by simply browsing the internet from the computers in the office.
You would benefit and make great strides in your career by learning more about the organization structures, policies, and aims and past achievements. This will also transform your view about the organization and help you to see your future with the company.
During the intervals when the work would not be so heavy, it is good also to get to know your colleagues by helping them to finish their tasks, get to know what they do and how they do it which might come in handy one day to further your career. As you pass time doing this and beating boredom; you will come out with more knowledge, energy and with a positive outlook.
Nevertheless, some workers normally tend to get bored just because there is no challenge in the tasks they are given to perform. This can be remedied by the worker making himself more useful in other areas by asking for more work to be assigned to him that poses greater challenge.
Cooperate with colleagues at work by being more of a team player rather than an individual when handling tasks. This helps to make the assignments more interesting because your colleagues will bring in fresh ideas and ways of handling the task.
Occasionally the boredom issue arises because the worker has been assigned tasks that are beyond his own scope, such that he is unable to work but passes time wondering where to start; so loses interest in it. This can be dealt with by the worker promises himself a reward with every progress he makes at the task. Rewards could take the form of getting an extra hour of sleep or buying oneself a gift after doing the work successfully.
These are the many ways that one can get rid of boredom at the work place, and it will go a long way in ensuring one enjoys work and furthering of career in the future.

By Robert Shorn

Writer and marketer