Bored and Lonely? What to Do

Yesterday I met a friend of a friend. Jane is an intelligent, interesting woman with her own business and an adventurous nature. She travels a lot, has a positive outlook on life and enjoys learning and growing.

Imagine my surprise when she said: "I get very bored and lonely!" As a divorced middle aged woman Jane is active, busy and proactive yet she feels like that. How could that be?

She explained that where she lives in Boulder, Colorado, many close friends have left and moved to other states over the years. And Jane doesn't get out to socialise that much. Over time she has lost many good friends and not met new people to spend time with.

Busy And Frustrated

Of course Jane is not the only one. For so many of us a busy life can leave us unfulfilled and unhappy unless we have great people to spend time with. The day to day interactions at work and in our community keep us in touch with people but these conversations often lack depth and meaning.

Having someone who cares enough to listen when you have a bad day, the joy of sharing your success with good friends and the security that comes from knowing you have people you can count on - all of these factors give you the confidence to keep on going.

On the other hand success at home and at work can be shallow and lonely if we do not have people we can connect with. Do you have good friends who really listen to you? Do you have special people who call you just because they want to hear your voice?

Boredom and loneliness can cloud your day and make life a real drag if you cannot make new friends and develop deeper friendships with those people you already spend time with.

What Stops You?

Even intelligent, interesting people like Jane get to a point where they give up. They lose hope and stop trying. They get used to living a life that is empty so they stay busy and ignore the problem. This solves nothing.

In fact the situation may even get worse. Over time your confidence dealing with people can fade until it even affects the few friendships you count on for a social life. You get so used to infrequent quality time with your closest friends that staying bored and lonely seems normal.

What Can You Do?

1. Make It A Priority To Meet New People

Get involved in activities that interest you and give you enjoyment. Do if for the fun and laughs you will have and to meet new people along the way. This could mean putting time into a sport, a charity or some other activity in your community that will involve meeting a lot of people.

I have even heard of someone getting a bar job when he moved to a new city to quickly meet a lot of people. You get the point - do something you will enjoy, to meet like minded people with that common interest. This takes care of knowing what to talk about and what to do. No awkward moments wondering what these new people are all about.

Once you get used to meeting new people in new situations it gets easier and easier. You get better at reading people, you feel more comfortable and it even becomes a lot of fun. Practice, practice, practice... and what was once a lot of effort will become a high point of the week.

2. Change Your Socialising Habits

We all tend to get into a routine that is helpful when it comes to doing all that needs to be done each day however that can really limit our chances of meeting interesting new people if we never go to new places or try new activities.

Make a decision to do new things each week. Find out what is going on in your town and schedule attending a concert, signing up for a class or joining a club. Take a friend and get used to being in new places and meeting even a few new people each week.

At first it can be uncomfortable moving out of your comfort zone but as long as you are choosing to only get involved in activities you are genuinely interested in then you´re likely to enjoy yourself. Even if you only meet one interesting person to chat with its worth it. Meeting one new person with similar interests is fun, much more fun than trying to make conversation with a hundred people who do not share your interests.

Boredom and loneliness can affect anyone especially busy people because all that running around leaves little space for quality time doing what you really want to do and even less time to spend lost in conversation with people you enjoy talking to.

The solution is simple. Try new activities that interest you and meet new people on your wavelength. Make that a part of every week and you'll have much more fun and the joy of connecting with wonderful people who enjoy your company just as much as you enjoy talking to them.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence.

Easy Ways to Get Yourself Fired

Most people head into a new job full of vigor and enthusiasm, sure that they will never be fired. That kind of thing doesn't happen to an employee like them. Don't be too sure, there are a lot more reasons for you to be shown the door than you might think. Here are some of the most commonly made mistakes that get employees headed right back to the unemployment line.

Padding your resume - Tell the truth from the start, right on your resume. In this day and age most employers do perform background checks but if a "little white lie" does slip through and you are hired if your embellishment is discovered at a later date you can be fairly certain that you will be cleaning out your desk the same day.

Too Many Personal Calls - Most employers will tolerate the occasional personal phone call, especially if you are a working parent. Do it too often though and you are probably going to end up being able to spend as much time chatting with your BFF as you like..from home.

Too Much Web surfing - Spending hours updating your Facebook or twittering about how your day is going is a waste of your employer's time and there will be consequences when they find out about it. Even more likely to get you canned on the spot is visiting adult sites.

Tardiness - Well its only 9.03am that doesn't matter right? Perhaps not, if you only do it once in a while but if you regularly arrive at work after everyone is else is settled in to their desks or your lunch hour is usually 65 minutes then you are putting yourself in the right position to never have to worry about getting to that office on time again.

Gossip - You may have stumbled upon the juiciest piece of information about the girl in the cubicle next to yours but suppress the urge to share with your coffee klatch and keep it to yourself. People may instinctively love to hear a juicy rumor or two but no one ever wants to be fingered as the one who started it. Indulging in office gossip can quickly lose you the trust and admiration of your colleagues, including the boss who has the power to let you go.

By Mel J. E. Rivera

For great advice for both employees and employers on all kinds of workplace issues visit http://savvytalent.com/blog/.

What Happens After You Get Bored With Facebook?

Before Facebook.com came out, it was Friendster.com that took the international web surfing like wildfire. Almost every person that uses the internet knows and has an account in Friendster. It lasted quite long until Facebook arrived. It was an instant converting of users, in a snap, Friendster addicts had turned Facebook-obsessed. So, the bottom line was that, there's always the "newest and the hottest" and there would be the "used-to-be-hottest" category. But then, have you asked yourself what might happen if everyone gets bored with Facebook? Here are some quirky but possible results for such happening.

- Once everyone got tired of all the games on Facebook, more of the users would find logging into the site a bit boring. They might check out about elisa kits or whatever instead, than logging into Facebook again and see nothing new.

- People might look for another social-networking site that looks new to the eyes and offers cooler and more-enjoyable features for the users. Thus, Facebook will be history, just like Friendster.

- Facebook might soon be housing all of the bugs, viruses and robots soon if their technical defense barred down because of few visitors and users.

- If a new social-networking site appeared, then Facebook might end up as a ghost site as well, just like what happened with Friendster, they might be new best friends if that happen.

We must admit that NOT everyone will grow tired of dear famous Facebook all at once, and with its extreme fame today, I bet losing interest on it will be years later...definitely not now. Who cares about what could elisa kits be if there's Facebook just a few clicks away from them? There could be some ways to save Facebook from being a ghost site, though. The Administrators could use cooler games, better features and fun interactions for users so no one would get bored. Besides, people aren't easily discouraged using a social network because it connects them with everyone, near and far. Good luck to Facebook, good luck to it and its millions of users.

By Jason K Spencer

Bored Today, Busy Tomorrow!

Some of you reading this may be bored today, but tomorrow just might get a little bit more interesting. Sometimes the day after a quiet day can get the best of us because we are ill-prepared for what is ahead. What you may consider doing while you are bored is planning for the future. Take the time to do whatever you have been putting off and try to get some things accomplished in your boredom.

Sometimes boredom can be misconstrued as laziness. We just don't want to do anything, so we tell others we are bored. A person who is a workaholic doesn't ever want to hear "bored." They are always coming up with something to do even when they should be taking a break.

Find what is interesting in all things. The boring speaker may have a nice looking wardrobe and he may offer some noteworthy tips between his "ums and ahs." The boring partner may be helpful to you when you aren't doing so well in accomplishing your dreams. The boring routines may be just what you need right now due to illness. See the unique, interesting and thought-provoking in all things.

Try taking the time out to research things that may be beneficial to you if you are in business, conduct a search for other jobs in your field, find someone who can direct you in a goal that you have been trying to pursue unsuccessfully. Whatever you do, avoid being bored. There will sometimes be those days when you are not interested in doing anything use that time to meditate or sleep.

Enjoy your boring day!

Nicholl McGuire

When Bored, Try Taking Surveys

Sometimes you don't want to do anything on the Internet but surf. However, why not make good use of your time during those down moments by taking surveys. There are many that pay anywhere from $1 to $5 for 5 to 20 minutes of your time. So if all your doing is just clicking here and there and have ran out of things to do, why not take surveys? Some will also allow you to accumulate points toward some really nice prizes while others will let you test and keep products. The following are some companies you may find interesting just click the links:

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