If You Feel Bored in a Relationship, then You Should Stay and Think "Why?"

After years of staying together and having done all possible things together in the relationship, you now feel a glitch is happening between you and your partner.

Well, reasons might be aplenty but what is vital here is you know that there is a problem and you are willing to fix it.

Fixing a problem would entail open mind to accept realities. Yes, if your partner has this habit of ignoring you because they busy themselves working, etc. you had better seen its coming. Yes, a hint might have been given you before but you failed to see it for whatever reason.

Now you are caught unprepared and in trouble figuring out sources of the matter. No need to wallow in pain or what, what is vital now is that you are aware of the situation and able to get the solution to the problem. Yes, making yourself the one to sort things out and get the needed fix; well, what a better way than to observe honesty and all for self-assessment.

Upon knowing the source of irritations or what between you and your partner, it is a must to iron out kinks. It is a two- way traffic where each one has to give way and then the other will have to do the same. Nothing can be done sans giving others a chance to contribute, and worse, just accepting all the blames. Nobody wants to be the one to blame in this case, each one has to open his mind and see clearly what went wrong with himself or the relationship.

Blaming could only result to making solutions difficult to come by and worse could send you both fleeing from the relationship sans the closure.

Yes, both deserves respect and have to observe maturity before other problems set in thus making the situation harder to handle.

Tact is vital to observe here and let other one be given a chance to think for himself and not just thinking about you, for a relationship to be healthy each one must be growing as an individual, free to become himself and not just a manipulated toy to function in a relationship.

Whatever the outcome of your dialogue or what, you must feel satisfied for you have done the right thing by observing honesty, sympathy, tact, etc. that would surely help fix the problem, and you two would go on to the next level or move on.


After years of staying together and having done all possible things together in the relationship, you now feel a glitch is happening between you and your partner.

Well, reasons might be aplenty but what is vital here is you know that there is a problem and you are willing to fix it.

Fixing a problem would entail open mind to accept realities. Yes, if your partner has this habit of ignoring you because they busy themselves working, etc. you had better seen its coming. Yes, a hint might have been given you before but you failed to see it for whatever reason.

Now you are caught unprepared and in trouble figuring out sources of the matter. No need to wallow in pain or what, what is vital now is that you are aware of the situation and able to get the solution to the problem. Yes, making yourself the one to sort things out and get the needed fix; well, what a better way than to observe honesty and all for self-assessment.

Upon knowing the source of irritations or what between you and your partner, it is a must to iron out kinks. It is a two- way traffic where each one has to give way and then the other will have to do the same. Nothing can be done sans giving others a chance to contribute, and worse, just accepting all the blames. Nobody wants to be the one to blame in this case, each one has to open his mind and see clearly what went wrong with himself or the relationship.

Blaming could only result to making solutions difficult to come by and worse could send you both fleeing from the relationship sans the closure.

Yes, both deserves respect and have to observe maturity before other problems set in thus making the situation harder to handle.

Tact is vital to observe here and let other one be given a chance to think for himself and not just thinking about you, for a relationship to be healthy each one must be growing as an individual, free to become himself and not just a manipulated toy to function in a relationship.

Whatever the outcome of your dialogue or what, you must feel satisfied for you have done the right thing by observing honesty, sympathy, tact, etc. that would surely help fix the problem, and you two would go on to the next level or move on.

The author is a mentor of teachers in elementary grades in the Philippines. Aside from being a grade school teacher, he is also contributing articles to magazines just to make good use of his spare time. He has joined writing contest in the past, but until now, he is dreaming of bagging an award! This is why, he is now trying his luck in this endeavor - blogging - to find his niche and somewhere, somehow find a way of publishing a book.

by Larry Icabandi Nabiong

The author is a mentor of teachers in elementary grades in the Philippines. Aside from being a grade school teacher, he is also contributing articles to magazines just to make good use of his spare time. He has joined writing contest in the past, but until now, he is dreaming of bagging an award! This is why, he is now trying his luck in this endeavor - blogging - to find his niche and somewhere, somehow find a way of publishing a book.