Are You a Boring Partner or Boring Friend? 6 Signs That You Might Be

"He wasn't always like this when we first met so boring, or was he?" Looking back on my long list of dates, I would have to say about a handful were absolutely boring. They might have been a little bit interesting when we first started dating, but then soon after I was wondering what did I see in them in the first place. Then there were my boring friends--ouch! Yeah, I said a few of my friends were a bit of a bore. They didn't know how to do nothing more than say, "Huh...uh.." on the phone.

Boring men or women as lovers or friends just don't have the spark, x factor or just something special about them and don't think you can change them either! You probably know from personal experience a few. A boring person is created just like a social butterfly is molded and shaped. You can make yourself be deemed, "Boring!" by others in a number of ways. Here are a few.

1. You don't engage anyone to want to converse with you. Do you ask questions when a person tells you a story? Do you exchange information? Do you act the least bit interested in what other's have to say?

2. You are ridiculously private! Some people are so private that they won't tell you if they left the house today or if they did, what store did they visit. It seems to ask these questions of them are considered offensive. So if you can't even share a little detail like where you shopped, you seriously have issues and boring is only a small part of them.

3. You don't articulate most of your words, you just make sounds. There is more to a conversation then "huh, hmm, uh..." You might be doing this because you don't trust people--fearful someone might go back and tell another person what you said. If this is the case, you might need a friend adjustment; rather than a change in personality. Yet, some people are good friends, but you can't tell, because you nor they know what to say outside of your job.

4. You don't leave home. It seems you are house bound because of a number of issues. So people assume you don't want to be bothered, you have nothing going on, and therefore you are bored or boring. Maybe they have wrongly reached that conclusion. So why not invite people to go out with you and/or visit your home?

5. Clueless as to what to do with people. Seriously folks, there are people who just don't know how to deal with people outside of a workplace. If they aren't joining a group, leading a group, directing a group, they really don't know what to do. So people who know them will say, "Wow, she isn't what I thought she was outside of the workplace--she's boring!"

6. Always by the book, don't deviate from routines. You don't like to change your order of doing things; yet those around you would like to see some things done differently maybe even see a different you. But it just feels safe cooking the same things, driving the same ways, dressing the same way, and so on. No wonder a partner might call his or her mate, "Boring!"

Notice all issues mentioned in this article prove that it is the boring person who is responsible for the label "boring" and he/she has no one to blame for their boredom.

Nicholl McGuire